Neuroplasticity is the new buzz word all over the world. Neuroplasticity is the brain’s property to change or modify its structure and its function through mental experience. It was once assumed that around adulthood, the brain became fixed and we could not really learn new attitudes or behaviours. This breakthrough disproves this old adage. The brain’s billions of neurons can be rewired, which makes it possible for people to learn new behaviours.
The discovery that the brain is malleable and can change and adapt is radically improving how certain services are delivered. Neuroplasticity has influenced fields from physical rehabilitation, to treatment of learning disabilities, to the treatment of obsessive compulsive behaviour, by providing ways to drastically improvements people’s quality of life. This breakthrough discovery is propelling us towards incredible possibilities of intervention in the field of personal wellness and family wellness. Treatment for difficult situations such as healing from abuse could potentially drastically improve as a result of such breakthroughs.
We are at the intersection between traditional systems of intervention for families who are struggling, and the development of radically better systems for individuals and children. (To read more about how neuroplasticity is being used to improve personal and family wellness, visit www.thenextprogram.com)
As a Toronto family law lawyer, I see this breakthrough as providing incredible opportunities to develop new models of intervention for families that must access the legal system. Why would a Toronto family law lawyer be interested in the wellness and the emotional healing of clients and children? Why would people’s emotional freedom matter to a Toronto family law lawyer?
As a family law lawyer, I have met too many individuals and couples being deeply wounded from severe unhappiness which is frequently felt before, during and after the legal separation process. Their emotional healing, and the emotional healing of their children, is usually not possible until years after the conclusion of a separation. Healing from abuse takes on a life on its own (healing from abuse requires additional attention). Many never fully gain their emotional freedom (emotional freedom and healing from abuse may happen somewhat faster for adults than for children because for the children, statistics abound that the impacts are frequently felt throughout their lifetime. Hear it from a family law lawyer: The statistics speak for themselves. The rate of divorce of the second and third marriage is much higher than the rate of divorce of the first marriage. This is one of many examples of how difficult it is for people to find their balance and their emotional freedom after they divorce.
It’s so difficult to get through the legal process because clients must develop the skills to:
- be strong for their children,
- be able to cope themselves with the intense feelings such as fear for the future, financial fears, fear of being disconnected with their children, fear of not being all right,
- work with their family law lawyer to understand very complicated family laws and financial issues, and
- make decisions about these issues.
It is certainly not during the legal process as it exists now that people achieve emotional healing. Frankly, after being a Toronto family law lawyer for over 20 years, I see very little hope of anything changing unless people who separate take the important step of entering into a system of support that has a real chance of making a difference. Neuroplasticity discoveries are providing this hope. “The NEXT Program”, currently offered only in Toronto, is pioneering the use of neuroplasticity to address the plight of today’s families and individuals that find themselves caught in an impossible system. Working with a family law lawyer is never enough to permit families to get through this process smoothly.